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Generally, the problem comes from people who play to win to the point of no longer playing fair, or to the point of ruining the game for everyone who's trying to have a good time. Nobody likes the jackass who's so worried about winning that he cheats, or generally makes everyone else feel bad because they're not as good as he is. You know that nerd who's one of only 10 people on the planet who knows how to use that secret chess move that allows them to always win? That's the guy everyone else who plays chess for fun wants to punch in the face. That's the slippery slope that the "play to win" mentality leads to.
If you wanna be the best at something, then people can get behind that. It's a noble goal. If you just want to always win, then you'll be looked down on, because that's generally not the point. Most hobbies and games and wnatnot are designed for people to have fun with. Yes, there are winners and losers. But that's not really the point. The point is to get together and have a good time.
I completely agree with you on the cheating part. I would never cheat to win. My goal in winning is often to prove to myself that I can be the best at something, regardless of what other people think. Cheating obviously does not accomplish that.
In your defense, part of having fun is trying to win. To play the game right, you need to TRY TO WIN. However winning should not be the ultimate goal. Play to have fun, but try to win. If you lose, at least it was fun, if you win, great. Always try to do better the next time.
Thanks for this response. This is such an underrated part of having fun doing an activity. If everyone is trying to win, the process is more fun for everyone I believe. Therefore I simply sigh at people who say playing for fun and playing to win are mutually exclusive.
