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"Is it a choice?"/Science of Homosexuality
#1
Posted 18 December 2008 - 04:50 PM
Some fascinating stuff, and well presented to (so worth a watch even if you know it all already x3)! :3
And yes I believe that is the voice of the late great Don LaFontine ^^.
PS- maybe this could be moved to a more open part of the forum? Dunno if Rocky/Chief still want to keep such things so hidden.
...Maybe that is the whole recipe of life, is to be in on the joke. Because life is a joke and if you're not in on it you're out.
But if you're in on it, you can make it." - Vincent Price
"What have you got to lose? You know you come from nothing you're going back to nothing. What have you lost? Nothing!"
- Eric Idle
#2
Guest_SAA_*
Posted 18 December 2008 - 05:20 PM
#3
Posted 20 December 2008 - 12:00 AM
#4
Guest_SAA_*
Posted 20 December 2008 - 09:00 AM
#5
Posted 20 December 2008 - 09:05 AM
If someone is molested as a child, they sometimes tend to have a fetish/hatred for whatever it was that tormented them. If a boy had it beat into their mind all their childhood that "Being TeH Gay will send you to hell"... well... They'll most likely grow up shouting "GOD HATES FAGS!".
So honestly, for the most part I think it's something they experienced throughout childhood. There can always be other answers, of course.
#6
Guest_SAA_*
Posted 20 December 2008 - 10:38 AM
#7
Posted 20 December 2008 - 04:05 PM
I also know a woman who was raped as a child. She grew up hating boys, and now... well... is a lesbian.
I also know a woman who was molested as a child by another woman. She grew up bi sexual.
I study psychology, and this is one of the things that interests me. Practically, everyone that has come to me to talk(I am always the one everyone runs to cry to.[yay me])... if they had a perfectly normal childhood, (Normal social status, not the outcast...etc) they grew up vanilla. On the other hand, if they had a traumatizing childhood, at one point or another, they grew up with little quirks and fetishes. Fetishes lead to desire, and desire leads to ... whatever they want it to lead to. Such as having 1 night stands with skinny black men, or having a "girls night out".
You want to know why homosexual exist? There is far to many reasons to list. It could come from a hatred of ones own parents, such with men- the mother figure. It could come from what I mentioned. It could come from simply wanting to rebel and wanting to be different, and sure, they could just be born gay. There could be many, many reasons. There is no definitive answer to that.
EDIT-
And as for choice- Again, no. My friends didn't choose to have what happened to them as kids. They can't really help the urges they get, like when my buddy is watching porn, or doing whatever it is he does. He can't just say "NO! I DON'T LIKE THIS INCREDIBLY HOT AND AMAZING FEELING!"
That'd be like me, saying "I FUCKING HATE GOLDEN GRAHAMS!" *Om nom* "I FUCKING HATE THEM!"
#8
Guest_SAA_*
Posted 20 December 2008 - 08:00 PM
or this one messed up girl I knew in High School. She got rapped from her adoptive father until she was 14! But to this day she does not date girls. She loves the dudes more then anyone I ever saw. Or the kid my brother knew in grade school. As he told me once, this kid asked him over for a game of "Cops and Robbers." He went over and the kid said, "You be the cop and I'll be the robber. Now spank me! I have been one bad robber!" My brother got uncomfortable and said, "My mother is calling me" and left. Years later when he saw him again he found that this kid was gay. Or the friend I knew who had a good life at home. Good parents, good home, average life. Now he is SO far back in the closet he's finding holiday gifts from the 70s.. So I guess Dues is right to say that it more then one factor. I just have to admit that it is hard for me to accept the fact that shitty lives make homosexuals. Because that means that if their molestation scars could be overcome (with lots of time and work of corse) then so could the same sex feelings, and I am not for that at all. People should be who they are.
#9
Posted 20 December 2008 - 11:19 PM
A more serious question should be: Writing gay/slash fanfiction: Is it free will, or some genetic DNA code that can be 'cured'? Ali?
[edit]HA! I edited my post while you're will still typing, Ratty. Now your quoting of me makes you look stupid. Stupid!
HA!
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#10
Posted 20 December 2008 - 11:34 PM
A more serious question should be: Writing gay/slash fanfiction: Is it free will, or some genetic DNA code that can be 'cured'? Ali?
x3
I realized I didn't actually state any of my own thoughts on this. I'd say it can be nature or nurture, though it's certainly not "unnatural" whether it's caused by one the other or both.
I don't really think it's possible (for most people anyway) to "choose" to find a certain or both sexes attractive, though it's certainly possible to not realize that you do.
As for abuse, that might happen in some cases (which I would say is a infinitely better outcome than having the person become abusive themselves, which is typical) but I certainly wouldn't think that applies to the majority, and even such cases as you mentioned there might not be a real cause/action connection. Remember people thought flies came from meat for a while
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Guest_RockyRaccoon_*
Posted 22 December 2008 - 11:51 AM
#13
Guest_kibaspirit_*
Posted 26 December 2008 - 04:34 PM
#14
Posted 26 December 2008 - 08:17 PM
Believe it or not...
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#15
Posted 27 December 2008 - 03:34 AM
#16
Posted 27 December 2008 - 06:45 PM
As for outright banning of all social discrimination: That wouldn't do any real good good. It's human nature to dislike and distrust that which is different from us. This isn't something that can be changed through laws and learned tollerance. The rich and poor won't hate eachother less just because the law says they have to, nor will various religions or other groups of people. The real world isn't Barney & Friends... To answer the old question: No, we can't all just get along. There'll always be some dividing force between people. Don't get me wrong... I'd like to have a world where no one's out to get anyone else and that we could all be friends... But it's a pipe dream... It's not humanly possible to achive that goal... Not without sacrificing our humanity to become something like the brainwashed masses in Demolition Man...
Projection: If Intruder Organsim reaches civilized areas...
Entire world population infected 2,7000 hours from first contact.
#17
Posted 28 December 2008 - 03:50 PM
But back on topic, I agree that nobody ever suddenly decided their sexuality one day. So it's not a choice in that way. But as anyone who's ever decided to hold on to their virginity knows, you can choose whether or not to follow through on those sexual urges. Even change them. It's just more slow and difficult since it took situations in one's life to make drawn to the same or the opposite sex.
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#18
Guest_Telgin_*
Posted 28 December 2008 - 05:00 PM
Not to mention the possible parallels between it and sexual fetishes. I know that most people don't just choose those, now do they? It's something more, often present from a young age if sources like Wikipedia are to be trusted, and again makes me believe that they're either born in or formed at a very young age by something.
That of course is the tricky part. What causes it? I'm of the mindset that something like sexual attraction is so strongly integrated into the way our brain is structured that nothing short of malformity could cause it to be homosexual. You can't choose it, and no experience you have could possibly change it, at least not on the same level as those born with it. I could easily see experiences like rape or molesting causing you to have a separate hatred toward a specific gender, but I don't think that could cause you to like the other inordinately, even if we weren't talking about homosexuality.
Hormones... that I might be inclined to believe as a possible cause. Or at least part of it. I doubt that hormonal treatment after you've reached adulthood could do a darn thing about it, but I'd bet that it does have some effect during development on the structure of your brain that might cause homosexuality to develop. Too early to notice it was going to happen, I'd bet, but possibly a factor nonetheless. It's fairly natural to believe that this is the case with, say particularly feminine males who are gay or partiuclarly masculine females who are gay, but even then I'm not so sure it's hormones so much as brain dysfunction that causes the personality quirks. Physical quirks on the other hand are directly correlated... at least with masculine females.
It's all very complicated in the end I guess, which is one reason we haven't cracked the source yet. I'll just reiterate that I believe that it's innate or inflicted in my opinion, not a choice.
The rest of the discussion I'll just leave for the moment I suppose.
#19
Guest_SAA_*
Posted 28 December 2008 - 09:20 PM
I guess you can say it is a choice in some ways. They can chose to accept that they will never get sexual fulfillment from the opposite sex. Or they can chose to live a lie.
#20
Posted 28 December 2008 - 10:53 PM
*facepalm* no you can't. God isn't going to change your sexuality, did you even watch the short educational toon I made the topic for, or were you afraid to see things from others points of views (like, say, psychologists and other medical professionals)? Anyone who tells you God has changed their sexual desires is lying my friend, if you think he's changed yours (like killing your sex drive) you're fooling yourself.
No, it could be something someone is born with, a natural attribute of a person. You wouldn't say, if in the bible it said people with red hair were sinning, that they could pray hard enough and their hair would change. They could dye it and pretend (and many would sadly) but they would still be sinful redheads, with the hairs roots ever trying to breath chemically free.
Not to mention the possible parallels between it and sexual fetishes. I know that most people don't just choose those, now do they? It's something more, often present from a young age if sources like Wikipedia are to be trusted, and again makes me believe that they're either born in or formed at a very young age by something.
That of course is the tricky part. What causes it? I'm of the mindset that something like sexual attraction is so strongly integrated into the way our brain is structured that nothing short of malformity could cause it to be homosexual. You can't choose it, and no experience you have could possibly change it, at least not on the same level as those born with it. I could easily see experiences like rape or molesting causing you to have a separate hatred toward a specific gender, but I don't think that could cause you to like the other inordinately, even if we weren't talking about homosexuality.
Hormones... that I might be inclined to believe as a possible cause. Or at least part of it. I doubt that hormonal treatment after you've reached adulthood could do a darn thing about it, but I'd bet that it does have some effect during development on the structure of your brain that might cause homosexuality to develop. Too early to notice it was going to happen, I'd bet, but possibly a factor nonetheless. It's fairly natural to believe that this is the case with, say particularly feminine males who are gay or partiuclarly masculine females who are gay, but even then I'm not so sure it's hormones so much as brain dysfunction that causes the personality quirks. Physical quirks on the other hand are directly correlated... at least with masculine females.
It's all very complicated in the end I guess, which is one reason we haven't cracked the source yet. I'll just reiterate that I believe that it's innate or inflicted in my opinion, not a choice.
The rest of the discussion I'll just leave for the moment I suppose.
See what I don't like here is things like "malformed" and "brain dysfunction", it has been shown to be perfectly natural and healthy in nature, just more uncommon, and uncommon does not equal a disorder, just a different order, and still a perfectly valid one.
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